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Blind Spot from Healing the Inner Child Oracle by Nina Mongendre and EdieArt. 

Invitation: During our formative years, our environment moulds our thoughts and personality. Adulthood is the process of untangling the threads and becoming the author of your own life. Parents are god-like beings to their children. These giants—whether they were loving, angry, present, or distant—gave you life. Their attitude towards you created your first impressions of yourself, for better or worse.

The journey of connecting with your inner child and meeting their needs disentangles these threads and allows you to raise your head out of the murky darkness and hold it up high, owning what belongs to you and releasing what doesn't.

Imagine a jumble pile of cables. In order to make use of them, you first have to put them in order and disentangle them. Until we know where a belief about ourselves comes from, we have a blind spot. Now imagine that all of these tangled cables are plugged into outlets. If you randomly unplug them, you might power off your computer and lose the work you were doing—or you might unplug your hard drive or your router.

You need strategy, patience, and some deep breathing to follow one cable at a time and locate its function and purpose. Then you can unplug it with confidence and ease. This card invites you to shine a light upon one of these unconscious patterns or behaviours so that you might unplug it at the source.

Inner Child: To further anchor the process, write the old belief on a small piece of paper and burn it. Let it return to the elements.Right, the next slip, inner child, from the perspective of your younger self, write a list of objectives for your mother and father or caregiver.

"My mother was...", "My father was..." Is there anything you blame your parents for? Read the words you wrote and notice which ones are judgmental. Pick the words you wrote that your body reacts to the most and ask yourself if you treat your inner child this way, and if it upsets setting for you to witness this quality in another.

For example, if you describe your mother as cold, distant, and mean, you might have trouble noticing when you are cold, distant, or mean, but you'll very easily identify these traits in others. You might not naturally regard your inner child with warmth and kindness. If a parent was critical towards you, you become self-critical. If a parent neglected you, you will ignore your inner child.

Tell your inner child, mum and dad were not perfect, but they did the best they could. I accept them as they are.

Journey: We need guidance and patience to unplug the deep wiring beliefs and behaviours that were instilled in us since our birth by the almighty parental figures in our lives. Until we bring awareness to these beliefs, we tend to disown these qualities in ourselves.

Identify one belief you held as absolute truth in your childhood that you are now questioning. It could be that you were the smart one, the loud one, the quiet one, etc.

What was plugged into your psyche by the outside world? I invite you to unplug that belief. Imagine the cord and where you are ready. When you are ready, pull the plug so it no longer connects to the circuit, so that you will no longer give it energy.

Say out aloud, I am who I am and that is it, replacing the old belief with the vastness of who you truly are.

To further anchor the process, write the old belief on a small piece of paper and burn it.

The Charms

The Skeleton: This charm brings you face to face with the bare bones of a story. It’s the essence that remains when all the layers, excuses, and illusions have fallen away. The skeleton asks: What truth have you buried so deeply you’ve forgotten it was ever yours? There is no need to fear the bones—they are strong, enduring, and hold the framework of who you are. Today, you are invited to honour the structure beneath your stories, to name what has been hidden, and to remember that healing often begins when the old skeletons are gently brought into the light.

The Ankh: This ancient Egyptian symbol of life and sacred renewal is a powerful sign that transformation is not the end—it is a new beginning. The Ankh reminds you that as you unplug from inherited beliefs or outdated roles, you are choosing a more vital, aligned version of your life. You are not just dismantling—you are re-animating. It speaks of eternal truths and soul-level wisdom, inviting you to step into your power not from force, but from remembrance. Your life is sacred. The stories you write now have the power to bless generations forward.

The Rose: Soft, fragrant, and stunning—but never without its thorns. The Rose teaches that beauty is not born in the absence of pain, but through it. This charm is a gentle affirmation that your healing does not have to be harsh. You are allowed to be tender. You are allowed to bloom slowly. As you hold your inner child close today, the Rose asks you to offer love where there was once neglect, grace where there was once criticism, and softness where there was once hardness. Your healing can be both fierce and gentle—and in that, there is deep power.